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Polygamy- Is it selfishness?

As I was strolling through my YouTube today I came across a video from the local radio station here in Houston interviewing a family that practiced Polygamy.

Now, I am not the type to instantly judge but their situation wasn’t normal. This particular family formed because the “husband” in the relationship got caught cheating on his wife. When the wife found out that her husband was cheating she decided to meet the “side piece”.

Needless to say they decided to form a Polygamist relationship. The thing that caught my attention was when the interviewer asked the husband if it was okay if the woman wanted to bring another man into their marriage. Well the answer to that question was NO.

I instantly got irritated because that is not fair. Why should the guy get to have two woman? Why should the guy get to keep his side piece and his wife?

Now on the other hand I watched another video with a guy named Brother Polight, he is also a Polygamist. He explained that by practicing Polygamy it helps with raising a family. Brother Polight sees his family as a business structure. In the video I watched he broke down the fact that there isn’t enough time in the day to work, clean, eat, bath, take care of your children, and relax if you’re doing it all yourself. Although I didn’t want to I kinda agreed with that statement. Honestly it still doesn’t justify why he needs several wives. there are alternatives that can assist if you don’t have enough time in the day, like getting a Nanny.

I feel like Polygamy is a male dominated relationship and its for the mans own selfish needs. I may be wrong but in the first video below that’s the vibe I got. Now in the second video Brother Poilight made some good points but I still feel like Polygamy is a selfish act that is beneficial to men.

Here are the two videos I watched on YouTube.

The First video I referenced

The Second video I reference with Brother Polight
Girl talk

Girl Let’s Talk About Dating Over 30

Let’s talk about dating in your 30s. My question is, should we date men that are older than us to get better results? The reason I’m asking is because since I’ve been divorced dating has been horrible! The men are either too into themselves, too boring, orrrr they’re are just pure manipulators. Am I wrong? One question men ask on dates that gets under my skin is the infamous ‘what do you like to do for fun’? I know it’s weird but if I were to be honest with them I would come off as the most boringness person in the world. Since being divorced i’ve just now found a little piece of my self, so I’m still a work in progress. I say all this to say when I’m asked that question my answer is ‘nothing’.