relationship

Polygamy- Is it selfishness?

As I was strolling through my YouTube today, I came across a video from the local radio station in Houston interviewing a family that practiced Polygamy.

Now, I am not the type to judge instantly, but their situation wasn’t normal. This particular family formed because the “husband” in the relationship got caught cheating on his wife. When the wife found out that her husband was cheating, she decided to meet the “side piece.”

Needless to say, they decided to form a Polygamist relationship. The thing that caught my attention was when the interviewer asked the husband if it was okay if the woman wanted to bring another man into their marriage. Well, the answer to that question was NO.

I instantly became irritated because that is not fair. Why should the guy get to have two women? Why should the guy get to keep his side piece and his wife?

On the other hand, I watched another video with Brother Polight, who is also a Polygamist. He explained that practicing Polygamy helps with raising a family. Brother Polight sees his family as a business structure. In the video I watched, he broke down the fact that there isn’t enough time in the day to work, clean, eat, bathe, take care of your children, and relax if you’re doing it all yourself. However, I didn’t want to. I kind of agreed with that statement. Honestly, it still doesn’t justify why he needs several wives. Some alternatives can assist if you don’t have enough time in the day, like getting a Nanny.

I feel like Polygamy is a male-dominated relationship, and it’s for the man’s own selfish needs. I may be wrong, but in the first video below, that’s the vibe I got. In the second video, Brother Poilight made some good points, but I still feel like Polygamy is a selfish act beneficial to men.

Here are the two videos I watched on YouTube.

The First video I referenced

The Second video I reference with Brother Polight
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Girl talk, relationship

Relationship Separate Homes

I have a question… Can you be in a deep relationship with someone and live in separate homes? “I’m asking for a friend“.

Honestly, how can you keep the sparks flying if you are around each other 24/7?

Lets look at the Cons

  • you will have to explain your every move
  • Having someone energy around you all day will interfere with your own vibrations.
  • The more you guys are around each other the less you are excited to see each other.

I may be speaking from a single mind frame, but on the other hand the fact that I am single may be the reason why I am able to think outside of the box. “shrugs shoulders”.

Girl talk

Girl Let’s Talk About Dating Over 30

Let’s talk about dating in your 30s. My question is, should we date men that are older than us to get better results? The reason I’m asking is because since I’ve been divorced dating has been horrible! The men are either too into themselves, too boring, orrrr they’re are just pure manipulators. Am I wrong? One question men ask on dates that gets under my skin is the infamous ‘what do you like to do for fun’? I know it’s weird but if I were to be honest with them I would come off as the most boringness person in the world. Since being divorced i’ve just now found a little piece of my self, so I’m still a work in progress. I say all this to say when I’m asked that question my answer is ‘nothing’.


Hair, natural hair, Uncategorized

I Cut It Off!

So I decided to cut all my hair off! This was not an easy decision for me, but  did it. After the big chop I felt so beautiful as if all those ideas and thoughts placed in my head as a child and an Adult, that you’re not pretty if you don’t have “long hair’ were all lies. In the black community hearing those things  were very normal.

I Thought I Would Look So Manly

  I have to admit social media such as Instagram helped me a lot because I saw other beautiful women who looked like me rock short hairstyles such as the one that I got. After 3 months I can honestly say that this was the best thing I could have ever done and I am loving every second of it.