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Unemployed MEN!

This may be a sensitive topic for some. I know for me it’s kind of touchy; I’m literally cringing as I write this, but it needs to be addressed.

I am in my 30’s, and in my past, I dealt with unemployed gentlemen (when I was in my 20’s). I have recently dated a guy who is also in his 30’s and jobless. He tried to take me on an inexpensive date, or he’ll tell me we can’t go anywhere because “he doesn’t have it.” Needless to say, I don’t go on dates with this guy anymore.

I’m cringing as I write this because I really don’t and can’t understand a GROWN MAN not having a job. I am digging deep within me, trying to find some sympathy, but it’s nowhere to be found.

Once, we went on a date to Olive Garden, where I was only allowed to eat the salad, and he ate the soup. The total for the meal came out to around; I think $10.00. The part that really got to me is he didn’t leave a TIP! I said something about it, and he still didn’t budge. Okay, so I know you’re thinking, “why didn’t you leave a tip”? well, guys, I didn’t have cash on me; I actually told him that he could have given me the cash and let me pay with my card so that I can at least leave a TIP.

We went on on another date; the lady who sat next to us at the bar paid for our drinks. Guys, as soon as she offered and paid, he hurried up and gathered our things to leave. I think he did that so he wouldn’t have to pay for the next round of drinks.

My personal feelings about a jobless man 

My personal feelings about a “jobless man” are as follows; no matter what, you should be bringing in some income, rather you have to scrub floors or flip burgers. “Can I get a AMEN”!

No woman should have to carry the responsibilities on her own because her man is an aspiring rapper or singer or because he can’t handle someone giving him orders.

In conclusion, GET A DAMN JOB!


Hair, natural hair, Uncategorized

I Cut It Off!

So I decided to cut all my hair off! This was not an easy decision for me, but  did it. After the big chop I felt so beautiful as if all those ideas and thoughts placed in my head as a child and an Adult, that you’re not pretty if you don’t have “long hair’ were all lies. In the black community hearing those things  were very normal.

I Thought I Would Look So Manly

  I have to admit social media such as Instagram helped me a lot because I saw other beautiful women who looked like me rock short hairstyles such as the one that I got. After 3 months I can honestly say that this was the best thing I could have ever done and I am loving every second of it.